THURSDAY, JUNE 6
“Nathan said to David, “You are the man! … Why have you despised the word of the Lord, to do what is evil in his sight? You have struck down Uriah the Hittite with the sword and have taken his wife to be your wife and have killed him with the sword of the Ammonites. … David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” And Nathan said to David, “The Lord also has put away your sin; you shall not die.”
2 Samuel 12:7-13 ESV
SKILLFUL CONFRONTATION: THE FACTS
The poor country pastor was livid when he confronted his wife with the receipt for a $250 dress she had bought. “How could you do this!” he exclaimed. “I don’t know,” she wailed, “I was standing in the store looking at the dress. Then I found myself trying it on. It was like the Devil was whispering to me, ‘Gee, you look great in that dress. You should buy it.'” “Well,” the pastor persisted, “You know how to deal with him! Just tell him, “Get behind me, Satan!” “I did,” replied his wife, “but then he said, ‘It looks great from back here, too!’”
Getting our facts straight is incredibly important when we feel led to confront someone. In 2 Samuel 12, when Nathan confronts David, he is very specific about his offenses. Nathan isn’t overly personal or emotional. David had a pretty long list of offenses and this wasn’t an easy conversation to have.
It’s always a good idea to approach confrontation with our facts in order. Attacking someone’s motives is at best speculation. Mike reminded us Sunday to not talk in generalities and to use specifics. He also reminded us to ask if this confrontation was in the best interest of the person.
Nathan concluded his confrontation with David by sharing the good news that God was going to forgive him. When you think about the facts of our own sin, how has God shown you mercy? Remember to share God’s offer of mercy to others when you are called to confront.