FRIDAY, JUNE 7
“Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into Him who is the head, into Christ”
Ephesians 4:15 ESV
SKILLFUL CONFRONTATION: TRUTH IN LOVE
Scars are usually not considered to be a beauty mark. People often try to hide their scars with clothing or make-up. And yet scars have a story to tell. Scars serve as a demarcation line between the past and the present; between what existed prior to the wound that brought the scar, and what exists now on this side of the wound. Scars tell of a wounding that has occurred. But scars also remind us that a healing has taken place. Scars remind us of danger and damage that has come our way; but also of recovery and restoration that has followed.
Scars inform us that a permanent change has taken place; that things will never be as they were before. There are many types of scars: there are physical scars, there are financial scars; there are emotional scars; there are relationship scars; there are scars of loss; there are psychological scars; there are social scars; and there are spiritual scars. (JB Hall)
This week we have been looking at the best ways to confront the people we care about. Part of that confrontation may be hurtful or hard to hear at times. It may even produce scars. But just like a good surgeon knows there are times when the best thing for his patient is to cut them open so they can be healed, there are times when the most loving thing we can do for our friends is confront them with things that may hurt to hear.
In Ephesians 4:15 the Apostle Paul reminded the church that God has brought certain people in our lives to speak the truth in love so that we can mature in the faith and not be tossed back and forth and deceived by error. We need both “truth” and “love.” We need them both without compromising either. It is not loving to not tell our friends the truth and it does no good to tell the truth in a way that’s hurtful and destructive.
Do you have physical scars on your body? What is the story that those scars tell? What are some of the spiritual scars in your life? How can you see the love of God through those spiritual scars?