Sermon Based Group Homework
For the message on May 5, 2019
Passage: 2 Samuel 16:5-14
This Sunday, Mike challenged us to forgive those who have hurt us. Some of us are carrying around resentment and grudges from things that people did to us or said to us long ago. From the life of David, we looked at an incident where forgiveness was on full display.
GETTING TO KNOW YOU
Have you ever heckled someone? Have you ever been heckled by someone else? How does it feel?
LET’S GO DEEPER
1. David had the power to strike back but chose to keep walking. What do the following verses tell us about Jesus’ expectations concerning the matter of revenge and returning hurt for hurt?
Matthew 5:38-42 (ESV)
38 “You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.’ 39 But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. 40 And if anyone would sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well. 41 And if anyone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles. 42 Give to the one who begs from you, and do not refuse the one who would borrow from you.
- Is there anything about what Jesus said that is hard for you to accept? Why or why not?
- Have you ever forgiven someone even though you didn’t feel like doing it? How do you feel about this person now?
2. David was open to the possibility that he deserved the treatment he was receiving at the hands of Shimei. He believed that God was greater than the hurt he was going through and that God would eventually work it out for his good. Based on the following verses, do you think God ever wastes a hurt that we experience?
Genesis 50:20 (ESV)
20 As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people should be kept alive, as they are today.
Romans 8:28 (ESV)
28 And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.
2 Corinthians 4:16-17 (ESV)
16 So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. 17 For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison,
- Has God ever taken a hurt and turned it into an opportunity for growth or ministry in your life?
- It’s been said, life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to what happens to you. Do you think this is true?
3. Throughout David’s ordeal with Shimei, David’s closest friends and advisers stayed by his side. Why is it important to have the support of a few good friends, especially when you are feeling hurt and resentment? What do these verses say about the importance of having these kind of friends?
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (ESV)
9 Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. 10 For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! 11 Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? 12 And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
- Why is it important to not deal with your hurts alone?
- What happens if you just bottle up your anger and resentment and never let it out? What happens in you if you begin to reveal your hurts to a trusted friend?
TAKE IT HOME
1. What is your biggest takeaway from this sermon and study?
2. Do you have any prayer requests for your group?