“When Abigail arrived home, she found that Nabal was throwing a big party and was celebrating like a king. He was very drunk, so she didn’t tell him anything about her meeting with David until dawn the next day. In the morning when Nabal was sober, his wife told him what had happened. As a result he had a stroke, and he lay paralyzed on his bed like a stone. About ten days later, the Lord struck him, and he died.”
1 Samuel 25:36-38 (NLT)
Several years ago while on a baseball scouting trip I stopped at a gas station to fuel up. While getting gas, I witnessed a young wife trying to reason with her drunk husband. He was out of control. She had no chance. Her timing was not wisely thought out and it proved disastrous.
A big part of life is knowing when and how to respond. Wisdom is the determining factor. Respond too soon, and it could blow up. Respond too late, and the consequences may already be set in stone.
In 1 Samuel 25, there is a fascinating story of three characters: David, Abigail and her husband, Nabal.
Nabal was a mean, rude and self-centered individual. He was very wealthy, but a very stingy man caring only about himself and his needs. His wife, Abigail, was a beautiful woman, full of grace and wisdom. We would say today, “He out-punted his coverage.”
It’s been said, “You cannot reason with a drunk.” I assure you, there is no truer statement. Sadly, much like many women endure today, Abigail knew she could not share what she needed to share with her husband because he was drunk and out of control. It would have cost her very life. So she exercised wisdom and waited until the morning when Nabal’s hangover had worn off.
That is wisdom! We can learn much from Abigail. Timing is everything. Knowing when to speak and when not to speak. Knowing what to say and how to say it. It is vital!
Interestingly enough, the name Nabal means “foolish”— And it proved to be accurate. His foolishness cost him his very life.
God has given us the spirit of Power, Love and “Sound Judgement”— better translated as “Wisdom.”
I remind and encourage you—do your best to exercise “Wisdom” in every decision you make. You won’t regret it.
Be Worth Being,
Kevin Burrell has worked in professional baseball as both a player and MLB scout for the past 39 years, and currently serves as an area scouting supervisor. Kevin was drafted in the 1st round of the 1981 free agent amateur draft (25th selection overall), and played ten years of professional baseball with four different organizations. He and his wife, Valerie, live in Sharpsburg, Ga.
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