It was a typical Monday morning commute. Traffic was dense, brake lights flickering like Christmas lights ahead. The driver, appearing to be running late and already frustrated, found himself boxed in. Another car abruptly swerved into his lane without signaling. That’s all it took. His temper erupted.

He laid on the horn, rolled down the window, shouted words he’d never say in church, gave the middle finger “good luck sign,” and tailgated the car in front of him just to “teach them a lesson.” His blood was boiling. His heart was pounding. And in that moment, he was consumed—not by traffic, but by his own lack of self-control.

Listen closely: Here is the reality—life is not about you. Life isn’t about our comfort, our convenience, or even our schedule. We weren’t created for our own agenda but for God’s purposes. And those purposes often involve transformation—turning reactive, impatient hearts into ones that mirror Christ’s love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. All nine of these characteristics are better known as the “fruit of the Spirit.”

Galatians 5:22–23 tells us that self-control is a fruit of the Spirit. It’s not something you manufacture by sheer willpower. God’s character is the fruit of the Spirit. His character grows in you more and more when you lock eyes with Jesus daily and surrender to His shaping hand on your life. Every aggravation on the road—or in life—is a chance to build, develop, and grow Christlike character.

So the next time you’re tempted to lose it—on the highway, on the field of competition, in a conversation, or in a moment of frustration—remember this: your response is shaping eternity. Your attitude and your words carry weight. Spend your time on earth preparing for heaven by developing Christlike character. You’re not just avoiding road rage; you’re preparing for heaven.

Love God. Love People. Live Sent.