he has now reconciled in his body of flesh by his death, in order to present you holy and blameless and above reproach before him,

Colossians 1:22 (ESV)

WHO YOU REALLY ARE

Nothing quite prepares you for becoming a dad. I had prayed to be a father one day, dreamed of raising children, and made decisions to prepare myself for fatherhood… but the day I held my daughter, Emery, for the first time changed everything. It was 1 a.m. when Emery arrived, and I remember the overwhelming sense of joy, fear, and the realization that we were already starting in the negative when it came to sleep! On that early morning, I embraced a new identity: “dad.” All of a sudden, Father’s Day became a day I was celebrated. A new date on the calendar became significant because of Emery’s birth.

We all have many identities: son/daughter, brother/sister, dad/mom, friend, neighbor, employee, and so many more. Each of these roles shapes the way we live, how we interact with others, and how we see ourselves. Some of these identities come with responsibility, others with privilege, and all of them with a unique set of expectations. But while these roles are important, there is one identity and relationship that every one of us must consider—the one that matters most.

When we come to Jesus, we are reconciled to God. This is not through anything we can do but by God’s grace alone. The incredible truth of the gospel is that in this reconciliation, we don’t just receive forgiveness for our sins or a second chance at life. We receive a new identity. In the moment we place our trust in Jesus as the Lord of our lives, everything about who we are fundamentally shifts.

As we are reconciled with God, we don’t just receive the gift without our lives being changed. The instant we submit to Him as the Lord of our lives, we are given a new identity. We go from being hostile enemies of God to beloved heirs. Through His sacrifice, we are no longer defined by our sin, shame, and failures. Instead, we are presented as holy, blameless, and above reproach.

This new identity is not something we could achieve on our own. Paul reminds us in Ephesians 2:8-9: “For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.” We are given this identity solely through the grace of God, who opens our eyes to Him so we can respond in faith to His calling.

Jesus’ death changes how God sees us. When He looks at you, He doesn’t see your mistakes and imperfections. He doesn’t even see a clean slate—because that wouldn’t be enough. He looks at you and sees the perfection of Jesus. Not because we deserve to be seen that way, but because Jesus died so that God would see Jesus’ righteousness in place of our wretchedness.

This new identity should both humble and empower us. It humbles us because we did nothing to earn it. It empowers us because we can walk in the freedom that there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:1). Are you living in this humble confidence during this season? Do you see yourself as a true son or daughter of the King of Kings? Do you believe that God looks at you and is pleased because of what Christ has done?

Friends, if God is fully pleased in Christ, then He can never be displeased in you.

Sellers Hickman serves as College Pastor at NorthStar Church and loves cheering on his Ole Miss Rebels. He and his wife, Hannah, live in Dallas, Ga. with their one year old, Emery. He also serves as the chaplain for the KSU Men’s Basketball team.